From Redditor u/Beginning-Monitor899:

I [42 / f] have been with my husband [45 / m] for around 20 years. Prior to our relationship, we each had an engagement that ended without a marriage. Mine ended amicably, his did not. Because of our small town life, we are still in a position where we need to “play nice” in friend group situations with the ex’s.

I woke up for work on Monday and saw that I had a Facebook message from his ex girlfriend. She was, for a lack of better terms, acting like a ghetto teenager, using the N-word and threatening me if I didn’t “keep [her] name outta [my] mouth.” I am not her friend on Facebook. I don’t talk about her. She isn’t even a blimp on my daily radar, so this came out of left field. Also, we’re in our 40’s. I don’t have time for childish crap.

I reported her to Facebook for harassment without responding to her. According to mutual friends, she’s now blasting everyone through text that I got her banned from Facebook for a while, so now she can’t use messenger to set up rides to work each day.

My husband is securely on my side and thinks karma is a birch. Our friend group, however, is taking a million other positions about what I should have done.

From Redditor u/freetobex2:

I’m a nanny for a high profile family. I signed a very extensive and strict NDA. Anyone directly involved in my life, mom, dad, sis, and husband, also signed an NDA. The nanny family recommended this, to talk about the job without getting into any legal trouble or putting them at risk.

Recently ran into one of my parents’ neighbors, Amber, at the park. Amber asked how the new job was going, then proceeded to ask specifics about how it must be working for a family where the parents are (insert their jobs here). A direct violation of the NDA and something I could be fired and sued for.

My dad isn’t the sharing type, like at all, so I figured it was probably my mom. I asked her about it in a casual “Hey how’s Amber,” way. I said I ran into Amber at the park and that it was odd because she knew details about my job without me telling her. My mom simply shrugged and said, “That’s funny. Maybe she googled? Or saw something on social media?”

My dad and sister absolutely hate Amber. They essentially said hell would have to freeze over before they spoke to her willingly. My dad ended our convo where I asked him about it by saying, “The only thing I know about her is that her son just made partner at a law firm in New York and is making bank and that’s only because mom saw it on Instagram and told me about it.”

Right then, I knew my mom lied to me and it was her. She and Amber love to “one up” each other with their children’s success, and I also just landed a great new job. I asked my mom about it AGAIN and she told me that I was being dramatic, making stuff up, and that she would never do that to me.

My mom doesn’t text people, only DM’s on Instagram. I know her password so logged in to check her messages. There was an extremely long DM to Amber where she shared their professions, children’s names, ages, private school, general locations of their homes, how they pay “really well”, etc. Everything that we are legally NOT allowed to say, she said.

I called her immediately and said that I logged into her DM’s and saw the message she sent Amber that was a violation. She started screaming at me about how she is supposed to be able to trust her daughter, she can’t believe I hacked into her Instagram, that mothers should be allowed to brag about their children, and then she hung up.

It has been a week without contact between the two of us. We used to speak every single day. I am starting to believe that maybe I’m the a**hole here for violating her trust like that. My husband says if anyone violated trust here it is her and that I gave her ample opportunity to tell the truth before I intervened and sought out the truth myself. He constantly reminds me that they could sue us into the ground, and fire me, for endangering my nanny family’s well being. Because truthfully, Amber could easily be a psycho fan or sell the information to someone who is. So, AITA?

From Redditor u/Fallen-Grace5656:

I f23 found out that I was pregnant very recently, It was not planned and my husband and I are trying to make a decision regarding going through with the pregnancy.

Here’s the thing, I told him to not tell anyone but he ended up telling his mom but made her swear that she won’t tell. he didn’t tell her we aren’t sure about it but just to stay quiet. Well, She begged and begged that she announce it on her Facebook under the guise of using our permission but I said absolutely not and lied and said my husband and I wanted to announce it ourselves later if we decide to go through with it.

Just a day ago I found out she logged into my husband’s Facebook account and dropped the bomb (made the announcement and yes she pretended to be my husband!) behind our back. I was floored I called her and she said she figured if she made the announcement using one of our social media accounts then we won’t mind and it’d still look like we made the announcement. But like I stated earlier, we’re still trying to make a decision. I lost my temper and yelled at her which made her cry. I said she overstepped and messed up completely then hung up.

My husband came into the room yelling about my poor treatment and abuse towards his mom. I told him his mom violated our privacy and put us in more pressure to finally make a decision for the baby since the family are now calling to say “congratulations”, He said that it was his fb so none of my privacy was “violated”and that I shouldn’t have yelled and hurt her feelings and made her cry no matter what, period. he demanded I apologize and we’ll talk about the pregnancy later but I didn’t give an answer and refused when he tried to force me to go to her house and “grovel” with apologies.

AITA?

From Redditor u/ComprehensiveSpare55:

Long story short, my daughter (15F) and a friend decided to play a very cruel prank on the friend’s 8-year old sister. Basically my daughter hid in her closet filming for TikTok while the friend called the sister in and pretended to cry and told her that she had gotten news that their parents had just been killed in a car accident…getting the reaction and then telling her its not true. Needless to say the friend’s sister did not take it well even after being told of the truth and the parents contacted me. I was absolutely disgusted especially considering the intention was to humiliate her on TikTok. So in addition to grounding her I took her phone away and replaced it with an old one of mine that I locked down so it can’t do anything besides make/receive phone calls, take pictures and send texts, basically equivalent to an old style flip phone.

That happened about a month ago. My daughter’s grounding recently expired and she asked me when she gets her phone back. I told her “When you can afford to buy your own.” Since her phone was what she used for it, I don’t see any reason why she should be allowed to one able to access such apps. She complained to my husband. He told me that he agrees she shouldn’t get the phone back now but that I’m maybe being a bit too harsh since confiscating it until the end of the school year for example would still send the needed message. So I told my daughter I’ll consider it based on her behavior but she’s still banned from TikTok regardless. Well she threw another tantrum. Truth is I’m just so disgusted she would do such a thing, and such abuse of an app means you don’t get the app anymore and it seems fair. Now she’s giving me the silent treatment. Obviously this won’t help in getting the phone back.

So am I being too harsh or unreasonable? I get how important such phones and apps are now to teens’ social lives, but I really can’t let something like that go unaddressed.

From Redditor u/AnAngrySnail:

My father died a couple weeks ago and my stepmom decided to use his Facebook account. It was like being kicked in the stomach when I saw a notification that my dad had posted something when he had been dead for almost two weeks.

This morning, I followed the steps to memorialize his account and I didn’t tell anyone what I was doing until it was done. Now she’s furious because she can’t go tinker with his page. She has her own so I don’t understand why she needs to be in his. She can still go see his stuff and post on his wall. It’s worth noting that before all this, she hadn’t used facebook in more than 2 years.

Give it to me straight, am I the a**hole here?

From Redditor u/Not-Madi:

Okay so to start this off, I’m currently in recovery from multiple mental illnesses including anorexia. So when I was first diagnosed I was pretty much immediately sent to a residential hospital for a few months and I EXPLICITLY told my mom that I didn’t want her telling people besides close family friends and relatives, and she agreed. Fast forward to a couple months out of the hospital and I’m scrolling through my moms Facebook trying to find a specific family photo I was looking for when I see multiple posts along the lines of: Today we had to check our beautiful daughter into Veritas for treatment of her ED. Please send prayers. (not those exact words but similar) This especially pissed me off because I’m not a religious person at all. Also, keep in mind that my mom is a complete social butterfly with over 500 Facebook friends, most of whom I’ve never met. All I could think about was random people I’ve never met immediately defining me as my mental illness and feeling pity, and the one thing I can’t stand is people pitying me. My mom uses the same password for everything so I knew her Facebook login and immediately deleted the posts. She still hasn’t noticed.

From Redditor u/GoGoSqueezers:

The last few months TikTok has become my (20M) girlfriend’s (20F) only personality trait. Sitting watching TV together? TikTok. Laying in bed? TikTok. Standing around making breakfast? TikTok. I wouldn’t really care except she insists that I watch every video with her. Every time I look away it’s “ooo look that this one” and then she process to show me the 100th unfunny video of the day.

She has a bad habit of making me watch her on her phone, showing me literally every single thing that comes on her screen, whatever I can just nod and pretend I care. But now she’ll show me these stupid videos and then try to explain why they’re funny to me when I don’t laugh which only annoys me more. The second I wake up until the second I go to sleep she is trying to show me TikToks. Clearly she hadn’t gotten the message that I literally do not care what these random unfunny teens post on the internet.

I’ve told her before to take it easy with showing me the TikToks because I don’t find them enjoyable like she does, but she continues to constantly show me more only now she adds this “oh this is the last one I swear it’s really funny.” Spoiler, it’s not.

This morning I had been awake for all of two minutes when the TikTokscapade started. Three waste-of-time videos later I rolled over to ignore them better and she got all sad and tried guilt tripping me about watching those stupid things. Well I finally had enough and rolled over and told her she is not allowed to show me TikToks anymore. They’re annoying, boring, and a waste of time and I can’t stand to watch another single video.

She called me an a**hole and said I really hurt her feelings, but unfortunately I really do not care. I hate TikTok it’s a cancer. And besides, it’s not like I’m saying I hate anything she’s created. AITA?

From Redditor u/brooooooaoaoaoaooa:

I (21F) struggle with anorexia, and have been trying to recover for 6 months. One of my biggest fears is eating in public, this has a lot to do with my anorexia but I’m also insecure about the way my face looks when I eat. I also have pretty bad anxiety and often have panic attacks. My boyfriend (24M), is incredibly supportive, we’ve been together for 2 years and he does everything he can to help me and make me feel comfortable. Last week I was having a great week, I’d been feeling good about myself and I felt confident enough to go out for lunch with my boyfriend. We decided to go to one of those sushi places with the conveyer belts. We had a great time and I was proud of myself .

A few days later I saw a TikTok where somebody puts their phone on the conveyer belt and it records people whilst they’re eating. I was in the video. It was only for a few seconds but I was distraught as I hate people seeing me eat and I had no idea I was being recorded. I started to have a panic attack. My boyfriend immediately messaged the girl who posted the video asking her if she could delete it and she refuses.

The next day after I had calmed down I decided to message her myself and explain why I wanted it deleted and she refused again and said it had tons of views and it’s her video therefore she can post it if she likes. The girl is 22 so more than old enough to understand my concerns. She argued that people were complimenting me in the comments and I should be grateful (I had not checked the comments because at the moment I am terrified of somebody saying something that may trigger me), this made me quite angry as just because i’m being complimented it doesn’t mean that I’d like a video of me up for the world to see. At this point I had lost my patience and started being a bit rude, I called her a malicious b*tch who needed to record other people without their consent to get views. I then reported her video, my boyfriend reported her video, and so did many of my friends who I had explained the situation to.

Her video got taken down and her account got banned. She found my boyfriend on Instagram and blamed us for getting banned, she was angry because she desperately needs money for rent and necessities and says we have just f***ed up the creator fund for her. I feel bad for her, but I don’t think this gives her the right to record people without their consent. My boyfriend does not feel bad for her at all, he says she was an absolute b*tch and deserves a ban. I’ve been in a horrible state of anxiety since this and i’ve barely been able to eat (I keep thinking about how many people saw the video) I feel like i’ve been set back in my recovery. I feel guilty that i’ve ruined a source of income for the girl and I feel like towards the end of our discussion I was speaking to her like s**t.

AITA

From Redditor u/Pointertakr:

So according to my girlfriend and several friends of hers that apparently needed to be included in our personal affairs this makes me a controlling a**.

Well to give some background I am not a social media user (I do have an account on one site but I rarely use it and it is more to keep track of distant relatives and old friends on) and neither was my girlfriend for the most part, she did use it on and off.

Well in the past year she has made an Instagram due to pressure of some of her friends. Well she is very good looking so it more or less kicked off and she has now got somewhere in the area of 20 to 30 thousand followers.

Well it was all good at the start be it a bit annoying to be honest but she sort of got addicted. At first she respected my choice not to be involved as well but now she wants me to take pictures, be in pictures, takes pictures of me to put on her Instagram etc.

Well essentially all of our dates, moments together and so forth are now the subject of a photo session and it is honestly starting to have a large impact on our relationship and has turned into the primary subject of every argument we have.

Well that brings us to even more recently and now she is starting to post more eh, provocative stuff, I suppose we should call it. I am obviously not saying nude stuff but like stuff in bikini’s with a focus on her a** you know the type of stuff. Now while I am not a big fan of her doing that, I do not consider it a huge issue (At the end of the day everyone sees it when we go to the beach anyways) it is more or less yet another shovel of s**t on the proverbial s**theap that this Instagram crap has become, however on the off occasion I actually check her Instagram the comments are just pissing me the hell off, primarily a bunch of horny dudes, you get the drift.

So yesterday I decided to just be blunt about it given it is really a strain on our relationship and it went about as well as you could expect.

We have not spoken since aside from another argument (Real fun given we live together and have to stay home.) So, am I just overreacting?

From Redditor u/Witty_Bet_9932:

I’m currently deployed and if you’re unaware TikTok has a ridiculous amount of military users, its so f***ing cringe. I swear Tiktok is like 90% cringy edgy preteens and teens, military, and creepy old men talking to the preteens.

Anyways my girlfriend makes a lot of TikToks about how much she misses me and about army girlfriend stuff. She’ll post stuff like #armygf

She also has a rather large following, in the tens of thousands and pretty much everyone in my unit and on base knows about this, and they non stop give me s**t about it. My commanding officer will roast me in front of everyone. I checked the followers list and almost all her followers were other servicemen, most of whom are probably on our base. All the comments on her posts are people I know roasting me.

So here’s some of the TikToks she’s made. She’s done the classic “I’m coming home” song which plays over her hugging me when she meets me. There’s millions of those on TikTok. She’s posted TikToks about how she upgraded when she dated me, putting pictures of me and her ex together, how she went from dating a boy to a man. She made another one about how she went from thinking one direction was her dream men, but then she met army men. She’s made TikToks going off about how much she misses me and sends screenshots of our texts or video calls. I can’t remember what else she’s done.

I know my girlfriend loves me and is doing this out of love but its got to stop. I talked to my girlfriend about it and she got really upset that I would tell her to stop. She says I’m not appreciative of her and i shouldn’t tell her what to do. I told her I love her but I’m getting so much s**t for this and its really making my life harder her. She hasn’t talked to me in a couple days after our conversation. I’m a bit worried I may have really pissed her off.

From Redditor u/Throwawayneowiow:

I (21M) don’t have Instagram, which is abnormal for someone my age. A friend I’ve made recently (21F) found out recently and when we were hanging out in a group she was really shocked that I didn’t have it.

She asked me why I didn’t have it and I said it’s not my thing. But then she was still confused and said “No seriously what’s the real reason”.

So I said “I don’t have insta cos I value myself and my self worth. I don’t need the validation of strangers to feel good.” She looked quite offended. I later learned she’s quite profilic on insta and has like 10k followers.

Well she told my friend (20M) I was an a**hole. I feel a bit bad, but I also feel like I just stated the truth. AITA?

From a former Redditor:

My wife (30F) and I (33M) are what they call a “low profile” when it comes to social media. We both have accounts on most of the most famous platforms, but we post very little. I personally always had a stupid prejudice about people who record every step of their life, but I respect it. I don’t spew hate on anyone for that reason (or any other).

Recently my wife and I were born a baby. During pregnancy, we agree that it is ridiculous to post several photos a day of the child or to create exclusive social networks for this. Until a child was born, we had very similar values about children’s exposure on the internet. To exemplify, when she was pregnant, Clara only posted two pictures of her dilated belly.

When Daniel was born, Clara posted several pictures of him, which annoyed me, but I didn’t say anything. It was a mother who had just given birth, so I considered it normal behavior. But that didn’t stop as the weeks passed, and I had to complain. Clara was very upset, said that she loved him very much and that he was the most beautiful child she had ever seen. I just rolled my eyes.

When our baby was one month old, Clara announced that Daniel had an instagram profile. I exploded and said I didn’t agree with any of this and asked her to delete it. She said I was being totally unreasonable and the child was hers so she would do what she wanted. I said that the child is also mine, and I didn’t want so much exposure. We fought and she went to her mother’s house. I also went to my MIL’s house and slept in the living room, I wasn’t going to miss my son’s moments because of a stupid fight. She got even more annoyed and we went back to our house, but she refused to talk beyond the essentials to me.

A month passed and Clara assured me that she deleted the instagram, but that she would continue to post at a lower frequency on her own profile. I agreed to this because it was the best middle ground possible. I came across my wife with 20k followers, and before I had only 1k. I thought this was bizarre. I saw her transforming too, it wasn’t just pictures and videos of Daniel. She was documenting her routine. I’m not a controlling person and I’m not going to say what my wife can and can’t do with her own image.

The big problem is that I found out she lied to me. I was blocked from my son’s instagram to think it was deleted. When I found out, I took the cell phone from my wife’s hand and locked myself in my bathroom. I deleted the profile of almost 30k of Daniel’s followers while listening to Clara screaming outside.

Nothing happened but silence. She won’t talk to me, her mother claims that Clara will develop post-natal depression after all this stress. I think this is all terribly futile and I start to think I’m a bit of an a**hole for caring so much about it, but at the same time I don’t want that kind of life for my son. I don’t want Daniel’s life living for the sake of being well on camera. I just want him to have a normal childhood.

AITA?

From Redditor u/Maleficent-Fortune88:

AITA for reporting my friend’s miscarriage photos to Facebook?

Throwaway for obvious reasons.

A friend announced a few months ago that she was pregnant. She and her boyfriend were very excited. We’ve been friends since childhood and I was happy for her. I had a miscarriage two years ago and it was pretty traumatic, so I’m mentioning that for full disclosure.

When my friend would have been 15 weeks pregnant, she posted a graphic, gory photo of her miscarried fetus saying she was devastated. Note the terminology: miscarried fetus, not stillborn baby. This pregnancy wasn’t even close to viability and it did not look like a baby. It looked like a shock image. The fetus looked like it had been dead a while and was sort of disintegrating. 🙁

I was upset and grossed out but simply offered my condolences and clicked “hide” on the first image.

Then it got weirder. A few hours later, she and her boyfriend rolled out a bunch of bizarre photos where they were posing with this visibly decaying fetus in their hands and one where she was kissing it. It looked like they were trying to replicate the photos that parents take with actual stillborn babies but like they weren’t even realizing that this was not the same thing. actually got physically sick seeing the pictures where she was kissing it and I reported all the posts to Facebook for graphic violence. Facebook removed them.

She and her boyfriend have spent the last several telling everyone they could about how they were victimized and abused by Facebook and how they had a beautiful, perfect baby and someone thought their baby was “graphic violence.” And of course the obligatory “If you think my beautiful child is violent or gory, unfriend me now.”

The only reason I haven’t unfriended her is because I’m realizing I might have been TA and I may owe her an apology and may need to process through my repulsion on my own, rather than reporting someone to Facebook while they were grieving.

From Redditor u/ThrowRApeachsodaaaa:

Clarification so this doesn’t get removed: I am NOT asking for any judgment relationship-wise. I’m asking if I am TA for my dueting his video.

I am 20F. My boyfriend (21M) downloaded TikTok a while ago & developed a decent following, nothing close to Charli or anything but around 80k followers which is pretty impressive. Most of his videos are “thirst trap” type videos (basically him just being hot on camera lol), which I am totally fine with.

However for the past month, he’s been trying to push out more content because he wants to hit 100k followers before his birthday in April. He’s gone from spending 2-3hrs filming per day to close to 6hrs (filming, editing, etc). He’s still in school and I work during the day, so the time he spends filming is now cutting into the time we used to spend together.

I brought it up with him two weeks ago and he said he’d try to make time for me but hasn’t yet. We haven’t spent any time together at all this week, and last week he was an hour late to our date (which I had to leave work early to get to) because he was filming stuff.

Two days ago, he posted a “day in the life” TikTok. He filmed his “daily routine” which was pretty accurate, but he also included a clip of us cuddling with text over it that said “4:00-8:00, spending time with my girlfriend”. I was a little bit hurt by it. The clip he used was over 2 months old, and I honestly can’t remember the last time he spent more than half an hour with me, let alone 4 hours.

In response, I dueted the video and greenscreened screenshots of his texts from when he ditched me to film, pushed dates back by hours, cancelled plans, etc. I admit, it was petty, but I was upset that he was essentially using our relationship for clout and “boyfriend points” with his followers but hasn’t been putting any effort into the relationship IRL.

My video blew up and his comments are filled with angry comments telling him off for being neglectful, using me for clout, etc. He’s lost a chunk of followers as well. He’s really upset with me, he said I had no reason to sabotage his TikTok account like that, and if I was upset with him, I should have just talked to him. He’s begging me to post a follow up video saying the screenshots were fake and vouch for him being a good boyfriend, but I’m refusing.

I do feel bad because he is pretty dedicated to his account, and I feel guilty for being the reason he’s losing followers, but at the same time I feel like what I did was justified. AITA?

From Redditor u/Throwawayname872:

My wife (F 34) is currently pregnant and basically she’s been really “marketing” it on her Instagram, almost every story she has or post involves showing off a photo of her belly and I’m really fed up with it.

I’ve had to work a lot more, some weeks I’m not home for a good chunk of the week, I used to feel pretty happy checking her instagram stories, what she’s up to?, what’s she doing with our girls?, etc. However, it’s just boring and the same. Even her friends are starting to get fed up with it, she recently posted a picture that was just her smiling and one of her friends commented “You look lovely, glad it’s not another belly pic”.

I decided to talk to her about it and told her I would really prefer to tones down posting photos of her belly, everyone knows she’s pregnant and I would really prefer if she would go back to what she did before on Instagram. We got into an argument, her saying it’s her personal Instagram, “don’t watch if you don’t like it”, “I don’t understand what it feels like” etc etc. Now she’s kinda in a little huff and not really communicating with me.

I can understand she’s very excited and happy being pregnant and is pretty bored being out of work, however I really felt I needed to tell her to tone it down, I don’t her posting out child’s face all over social media either.