From Redditor u/makemefamou:

My SIL was on her way to my house for a family road trip, she said she was stopping at Starbucks for coffee and I said get me a hot coffee, she said she’s getting me an iced coffee because it’s too hot to be drinking hot coffee, I said no, I don’t like ice coffee, get me a hot one, she showed up with TWO (2) iced coffees, honestly I’m not a morning person, and I couldn’t be bothered to argue so I said it’s fine, she handed it [to] me and I told her I’m not drinking that. In the car she asked me to Venmo her for the coffee, I said why would I do that? She said because I got coffee for you, well obv it wasn’t for me so I said so. Now she’s mad and honestly I don’t care. My mom says I should send the money, my dad and brother however said I’m not in the wrong.

From Redditor u/Throwawaymaterial753:

I (26F) was in a cafe recently doing my work… and I was using my phone to scroll through social media. I was holding my phone upright (because I have bad posture so I slouch like turtle) and was minding my own business when this lady comes up and tells me to stop taking pictures of her (I wasn’t). I told her I wasn’t, but apologised if it seemed that way and explained I was using my Instagram. She insisted that I was, and demanded my phone to prove that I didn’t have any photos of her.

This may have been the part where I was a TA: I told her no and she said that if I hadn’t taken any pictures of her I wouldn’t mind. I told her its a total invasion of privacy, but if she still had an issue I don’t mind showing her my gallery in the presence of the cafe’s manager. She then started to scream at me (claiming I’m stalling to delete the photos of her), but I stood my ground and refused to let her have my phone.

Long story short, the manager of the cafe got involved and told her to leave. Her date, who had been sitting there the ENTIRE TIME, called me a b*tch and left with her. My other friend, who was with me, told me I was the TA cause I should have given her my phone to shut her up (and avoid a scene). My reasoning was I don’t know her so I don’t know what she’s doing with my phone, and I had offered her a peaceful compromise (get the manager involved so there’s a third party witness), which she rejected.

So here I am, asking you guys if I’m the TA.

Fron Redditor u/anonymous_girl1345:

I’m a regular at a local coffee shop. I stop in nearly everyday on my lunch break so I’ve gotten to know the owners and most of the staff. They’re all great and I usually leave a 50% tip.

Yesterday I went and there was a girl I didn’t recognize behind the counter, I assume she’s new. I placed my usual order, medium light roast coffee, black with room. She turns around to pour the coffee and I notice her fill the cup up halfway with the light roast and the fills the rest up with the dark roast. She puts the cup in front of me and I ask her why she filled the cup up with dark roast when I ordered light roast. She said they ran out of light roast so she used the dark roast to top it off.

I told her I don’t drink dark roast and she responded that it doesn’t make a difference because it’s all the same and she didn’t feel like putting on a new pot because it would take 6 mins. I told her it’s not all the same, which is why it’s labeled differently, and I would’ve waited for the fresh pot or ordered something else. She gave me a wtf look, said it’s industry standard to do that and walked to the back and didn’t come back out again. She sent out another worker I’m friendly with who apologized and got me the correct coffee.

I went in today and the owner was there and half-jokingly half-seriously asked why I was causing problems with his employee. I don’t feel comfortable going there anymore and I’m wondering if it really is a standard practice and I was just being an AH?

From Redditor u/Smooth_Astronaut_894:

There’s a cafe, right next to wear I work, that I’ve been going to every day at the same time for about four years. I order the same thing every day, to the point where the waitress runs my order as soon as I walk in the door, she doesn’t even ask. I’m friendly with the staff, I get to hear about what’s going on in their lives, and most importantly to this story I always sit in the same spot (if it’s available).

The tables range in size and number of seats. The ones in this particular corner have four seats, but really are too small for four people.

Well, yesterday morning I went in to get my bacon and eggs, said hi to the waitress and took my seat. The inside was busier than usual because it’s winter and cold as f*ck outside.

Four ladies then entered after me, places their orders, and sat down at the four seater next to me. Now, these ladies were all a little larger, and had ordered food as well as coffee, so the table would not have been a comfortable size for them.

The first lady turned to me and asked quite politely if I could move to another table, as I was alone, so they could push the tables together. Before I could answer though the second lady interjected, demanding the same quite rudely. I refused, and suggested they could move, as there were several larger tables outside, although again they would have to brave the cold. This second lady became quite demanding, saying I was being selfish, and her friends were obviously embarrassed. She raised her voice to the point the waitress asked them all to leave for “hassling the regulars.”

So now I feel torn. On the one hand, this lady was rude, and I was a paying customer who didn’t want to sit outside in the winter air. On the other hand, the other ladies weren’t rude, and I was occupying a table they could have used. If I had moved, they could have had their food in peace instead of getting kicked out.

So, AITA?

From Redditor u/OverallAssignment265:

My wife and I went out for coffee and a pastry with our 8-month-old son at a cafe near our local park. He has started babbling more often lately and loves to play with his toy (that doesn’t make too much noise). We were seated outside and were enjoying our coffee and pastry and were enjoying the sun and our sons babbles while the weather is still not too hot. An older couple was seated after us at a few tables over, and they looked at us with distaste and made a loud comment about how parents ruin going out for others with their babies. A few minutes of babbling later, she asked us if we could keep our son’s voice down. I told her we would try but no promises. We put on Ms. Rachel to try to keep him from making noise but he would start clapping or babbling still. As we were about to finish and leave, she turned around and asked us to leave so she and her husband could enjoy their day out. I told her she came to a local park, sat at an outdoor cafe, and had no right to make us feel bad for going out with our son. She told me that she never took her kids out when they made noise and we should take others into consideration. Her husband told her that was enough but in anger I threw out a comment about how she should be ashamed of herself as a mother to make other parents feel bad for enjoying themselves, especially in a public place where noise should be expected. My wife told me that I should have kept that last comment out of it because it became personal and a coworker commented that I should have just ignored her and not said anything. My wife is now hesitant to go out to avoid me responding that way to another person. I think I am in the clear, but AITA?

From Redditor u/MetalHikerDrew:

I go to the same local coffee shop nearly every morning to begin my day reading. It’s semi active with light music playing and people conversing. Many people are studying.

Lately the same guy comes in and does Skype calls without headphones. The voices on the other end are relatively loud and the way the voices sound over speakers and not in person is very jarring and distracting.

In my view it’s bad practice to not use headphones on a device when around others in public spaces. So I asked him if he could please use headphones. He didn’t say a word and lowered his volume and I just let it be. A couple days later he arrives after me, sits within 15 feet, and gets his calls going. I ask once again, “Hey can you please use some headphones?” and he says “What’s your problem man? Nobody cares!” And dismisses my request completely. I told him I think it’s just good practice to use headphones while in a public space and pointed out how everyone else was. Needless to say, he’s still having his calls very loudly.

From Redditor u/throwRA-fhfsveyary:

I am a high schooler with a weekend job at a coffee shop. My coworkers who work weekends are:

James – the owners son, he goes to my school. He’s a shift manager but it’s not a real formal thing, he’s a friendly guy.

Danielle – A college student who sometimes works weekends too.

So sometimes customers will come in and just be angry about such little stuff. Like literally blow up about nothing. I [don’t know] if they’re in a bad mood already and looking for someone to take it out on or what, but it’s a lot… Like how sad so your have to be to be a grown-a** man taking your anger out on high school and college kids.

So James and I were joking about having a little fun with them and hopefully getting them off our backs.

So one day I was at work and some guy was having a temper about how we don’t make the coffee hot enough… Which I couldn’t do a thing about because I gave it to him right out of the machine.

So James came in and was like “sir is there a problem here” and the guy started ranting at him too. So he was just like “OP, this is unacceptable, you’re fired.”

I started acting real sad, like “no please don’t fire me, my family needs the money, I need this job, pleaseeee” and he played up being a hard-a**, telling me to take off my apron and leave.

The angry guy started to backtrack, like “It isn’t that big of a problem, you don’t need to fire her over it. I didn’t mean it” and James was like “No, we pride ourselves on the best customer service.”

Of course after all that drama I still had my job, we were just acting. And we’ve done it a couple times, whenever a customer will lose their temper at Danielle or I, James will storm in and “fire” us. And almost every time, the person who had come in angry will apologise and say that they didn’t mean it. It’s kind of satisfying, making people realize their actions might actually have consequences.

Anyway, I was telling my friends from school about this and a few of them thought it was a mean prank, to let someone go away thinking they’d gotten someone who desperately needs the money fired.

AITA for this joke?

From Redditor u/Human-Jelly5781:

I [22F] was studying at a popular coffee shop in my town yesterday afternoon. It was crowded, but I was lucky enough to get a 2 person table with an outlet. I stayed there for maybe three hours and ordered multiple items throughout my stay.

About an hour into my stay, a girl about my age who reeked of weed asked if she could share my table so she could study as well. I looked around and every other chair was occupied and there were even people standing beside the tables. I absolutely despise the smell of weed. It’s legal in my state so there’s no issues there, but it makes me nauseous and gives me a headache, so I knew there was no way I would get anything done with that girl across from me. Without mentioning her smell, I told her no and that I needed my personal space.

Instead of walking away, she pressed and said that if I wanted my personal space I shouldn’t study in the most popular coffee shop in town. I then told her that I specifically didn’t want her at my table because she smelled like a [weed] farm and she should take a shower before she tries to infringe on strangers’ personal space. I thought she would go away after that, but she told me she was sitting at my table whether I liked it or not. She put her things down, maybe thinking I would leave.

Instead, I flagged down an employee and explained the situation. She sided with me and asked the girl to leave, threatening to call security if she didn’t do so.

I resumed my work but felt a bit shaken by the situation. Later that evening, I recalled what happened to some of my friends. I thought that they would all agree that she was being an AH, but to my surprise, a couple of my friends told me I was the unreasonable one. One of them is familiar with the coffee shop and told me that it was rude of me to hog a table (even though I bought two drinks and a pastry throughout my stay), and that if I really had a problem with someone smelling bad, I should have just left. Another one of my friends said that my comment about how that person smelled was out of line, and even if someone is being rude I shouldn’t talk like that to a stranger. This sparked a huge debate until I agreed to post on this sub to settle this once and for all. So, am I TA in this situation?

From Redditor u/Double_Table_8835:

On Saturday mornings I study at a café. It is always crowded (coffee shop noise helps me focus), so I show up at opening time (8am), order some food and a drink, and stay for 2-3 hours. The layout is mostly 2 person tables that can be pushed together, with some larger tables as well as counter seating. Even though I go on my own, I always sit at a 2 person table, as the counters are uncomfortable for me and they do not have much space. I also like sitting against the wall so that people walking by can’t see my computer screen.

Yesterday at ~9am, I was doing work at a table when a random woman sat across from me. This ticked me off because I don’t like my personal space being invaded, and I would have appreciated it if she had asked me before sitting down, but I ignored it. I was near the counter that day, so she might have just been waiting for her food. As I looked up, I noticed she was talking to another woman in the line to order (we’ll call the first woman Beatrice and the second woman Suzy). Suzy was saying how they might have to take their food to go because no tables were available. Beatrice didn’t address me directly, but she gestured to me, as if planning to take over my table. This ticked me off more because it was like I was an object that could be moved, but I knew when the time came I would ask them not to sit at my table.

Sure enough, Suzy got the order in and brought her number to my table. She then asked if I wouldn’t mind moving to the counters so that her friend could sit here, saying her friend had recently had back surgery and the counters would be too uncomfortable for her. I told her no–the counters are uncomfortable for me too, and there would not be enough space for all of my books and notebooks. She called me rude and inconsiderate and said I shouldn’t even be there because I wasn’t eating anything. I said I had bought breakfast and a drink, not that it was their business, and that they could take things to go. Eventually, one of the workers came over and asked if they were bothering me. I said they were, and Beatrice and Suzy were asked to leave.

When I got home, I recounted the story to my roommate. I thought she would be as horrified as I was by their behavior, but she was hesitant to take a side. She said their behavior was rude and entitled, but at the same time I was taking up a table at a notoriously busy cafe for a long time and I could have moved. Later, my sister likened it to not giving up a seat to a disabled person on public transit. This I don’t agree with because transportation is a NEED for a lot of people, and these people didn’t NEED to sit down at this café. Also, maybe this is a**hole-y of me, but I think a lot of people say they have back issues or some other mild condition just to get things they want. Both my sister and my roommate said it was a “they had to BE there” kind of situation for them to decide, so I’m wondering if any of you can decide if I’m TA without having been there?

From Redditor u/Just-Impression-1843:

We were deciding what to eat and she really wanted to go to this restaurant. I was on board with it, but I am super picky and had no idea what this restaurant had. We get there, I look at the menu, and nothing looks even semi-good. For example, all of the sandwiches had wheat bread only and I hate wheat. Anyway, I let her order her food and when the lady asks what I want, I told her I wasn’t eating. I told my girlfriend I wanted her to enjoy the meal and I was happy to be there. My girlfriend got so mad, got up and left. I left with her and asked what the big deal was. She insists that I need to be there eating with her. We ended up going somewhere else together, but it irritated me. Am I in the wrong here?

Update: It was some french cafe. I’ve never been to a french restaurant, but I was willing to check it out. Their menu wasn’t very big. I just wanted her to enjoy a nice meal.

Update: There was no waitress. We ordered at the counter and they put the food on our tray. Also, we had been together for 10 months so I don’t think there is much to feel awkward about.

Update: I have no allergies. For the most part, I can usually find something to eat at a restaurant, but this French restaurant had nothing worth eating (in my opinion).

Update: I didn’t google the menu beforehand because we’ve never gone to a restaurant that I couldn’t find something to eat. This was a lunch, not a dinner.

Update: Okay, so I just learned that all bread is made of wheat (we are all smart in different ways). It was some type of whole grain or sourdough. What I meant to say is I only like white bread, but brioche buns are good too.

Update: 10 months into the relationship and we never went to a place where I couldn’t find something to eat. This was the first time this happened. Also, I do try new things. I’m not stubborn with it, but usually it is me trying her food because I only order things I know I will like. I don’t like wasting food, nor my money.